Wilczek, Colleen Anne

Colleen Anne Mathews was born in the tiny upstate village of Ilion, New York to Robert (Bob) and Lucille (Sweeney) Mathews on July 9, 1946. Bob served in WWII and had been shot by the Germans in North Africa. His service and courage earned him a purple heart, a fact Colleen had been so proud of throughout her life.

The family grew as Colleen became a big sister to four brothers – Robert (Bob), William (Bill), Brian, and Kevin. The growing family moved into a modest new three-bedroom house in New Hartford in 1953. Throughout her adult life Colleen recalled growing up in simpler times. She was grateful to grow up in a classic post-war American suburban environment – one car to a house (in their case a Chevy), one dog to a family (in their case a beagle), and home-cooked meals even on weekends! She recalled when the neighborhood’s first television set arrived and was invited to come watch it.

Colleen loved growing up with her extended family nearby and ever-present in her daily life, and she especially cherished her grandparents. She had a special bond with her loving and attentive grandmother Iva Boudry, her ‘go-to’ person whenever she needed anything. 

Colleen often recalled one story that summed up her childhood environment. When the young girl suddenly found herself alone during a shopping outing in Herkimer, a policeman put her on his shoulders, bought her an ice cream cone, and helped her find her parents. 

A friend in high school set her up on a blind date with a young man from the Polish section of Utica, and they agreed to go to a winter hayride together. The couple got lost and missed the hayride entirely but the extra-long car ride set the stage for a lifetime of adventures. 

Stephen Paul Wilczek and Colleen Anne Mathews were married on New Year’s Eve 1965 and soon the couple was in Rochester raising a family as Steve rose through the ranks at Xerox Corp. 

Colleen relished her role as a homemaker as she raised her sons, Mark and Greg, in Fairport. She tended to the family’s every need and looked after herself, too. She took up gardening, joined bowling and golf leagues, served as a cub scout den mother, joined the St. Johns of Rochester Women’s Club, and became the first office employee at Hynes Concrete working for her good friend (and new boss), Patricia Hynes. Colleen and Steve also took to the high seas when they bought a Catalina 22 sailboat in 1983 which they kept at Bristol Harbor on Canandaigua Lake.

Steve’s career allowed Colleen to become an ex-pat in 1986 when Xerox offered Steve the opportunity to move to England. How she loved this new chapter! She immersed herself in the culture and took full advantage of everything the experience offered. Colleen and Steve visited too many castles to count, spent Sundays walking through the English countryside or dining in manor houses, made many English friends, and traveled often to the continent.

Colleen and Steve moved to California in 1989 and enjoyed over 15 years living in Orange County. Colleen looked stunning throughout her 40s and 50s with a light California tan and a trim figure. Once again, she threw herself into her new world and made more lifelong friendships. 

Colleen and Steve moved back the Rochester area after his retirement. They built a new house in Victor which was the site of a million great memories including visits from her granddaughters.

Sometime in her mid-50s, Colleen learned that she had muscular dystrophy. While the gradual effects reduced her mobility with each passing year, it never deterred Colleen from keeping an eventful life. She and Steve traveled often, watched their grandkids grow up, and kept an active social life with family and friends. In her quieter moments, Colleen enjoyed knitting, quilting, sewing, genealogy, and keeping in contact with friends near and far – fueled by a soothing cup of tea. 

She celebrated her 75th birthday with family down on Canandaigua Lake and a couple months later the realities of the ailment finally caught up with her and her body just couldn’t go on. 

Colleen Anne (Mathews) Wilczek was predeceased by her parents, Robert and Lucille (Sweeney) Mathews, and a brother, William (Bill) Mathews. She is survived by her adoring husband of nearly 56 years, Stephen; her sons, Mark of Victor, New York; and Greg (Silvana) of Fairfield, Connecticut; granddaughters Sofia and Clara (also of Fairfield); her brothers Robert (Gina) of Northville, Michigan; Brian (Kathy) of Whitesboro, New York; and Kevin, of Whitesboro, New York; and several nieces and nephews, including her adored nieces and their husbands including Jamie (Mathews) and Marc DePerno, Karie (Mathews) and Michael Fischer, and Devin (Mathews) and Brent Valentine. Colleen also so enjoyed the friendships she began at each stop on her adventure and nurtured throughout her life.

Calling Hours Friday December 3, 4-6PM at the Richard H. Keenan Funeral Home (Egypt Location) 7501 Pittsford Palmyra Road, Fairport. Funeral Mass Saturday December 4, 10AM at St. John of Rochester Church, Fairport


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12 responses to “Wilczek, Colleen Anne”

  1. Ken and Loretta Davis Avatar
    Ken and Loretta Davis

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Colleen was such a great lady and we so much enjoyed both of your company during our get togethers over the years.

  2. Robert Davis Avatar
    Robert Davis

    Steve, Greg and Mark

    Our heart and our prayers are with you for the peace and grace that. times like these require. Colleen life story is , like Collen , beautiful and engaging . All of our love

  3. Linda Forbes (Hynes cousin) Avatar
    Linda Forbes (Hynes cousin)

    Sorry for your loss of one so dear to your hearts. May fond memories warm your hearts with her love.

  4. Tess McFarland-Porter Avatar
    Tess McFarland-Porter

    Steve,
    I am so sorry for your loss. You and Colleen were such a joyful presence at the Victor Y. Your partnership inspired me. In my exercise classes, Colleen was such a great role model— she always moved with grace and creativity. She taught me a great deal. I admired the way she lived life to the fullest..
    Love,
    Tess

  5. Cyndie Figgs Avatar
    Cyndie Figgs

    Steve
    Was so saddened to hear of Colleen’s passing….I have been reliving so many good memories of you both. We go way back don’t we? My prayers are with you and the family.
    Cyndie Munzert Figgs

  6. Annie Williams Avatar
    Annie Williams

    I worked for Steve in California and met Colleen at that time. She was so down to earth and interested in getting to know whoever she was as speaking with. I reunited with her & Steve back in Fairport, such a pleasant surprise. She was a kind, loving, creative soul who touched everyone she met. She fought a good fight and her mark in this life will last forever.

  7. Daksha Patel Avatar
    Daksha Patel

    So sorry for your loss Greg! You and the family are in my prayers.

  8. Karen Maskens Avatar
    Karen Maskens

    So sorry – I loved hearing Colleen’s laugh at parties. She will be remembered as a great lady.

  9. Melissa Marino Avatar
    Melissa Marino

    Colleen was always smiling, and that is how I’ll remember her! What an amazing, wonderful life she lived. Our prayers and condolences go out to your family.

  10. Tom and Paula Davis Avatar
    Tom and Paula Davis

    So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful and heartfelt story of her life. All our best to you
    Tom and Paula

  11. Sandra and Tony Simms Letchworth Garden City U.K. Avatar
    Sandra and Tony Simms Letchworth Garden City U.K.

    So sorry to receive the sad news that Colleen had passed away. We met when Tony worked in Xerox Rochester for a few months in 1985 and my sons and I joined him for the summer. We stayed friends ever since and exchanged visits over the years. Colleen was always o happy and positive. Nothing got her down. I will miss her cheery e-mails. Our thoughts are with you Steve and rest of family from the Simms family

  12. Caroline Nixon, England Avatar
    Caroline Nixon, England

    Steve, Mark and Greg
    I am so sorry to hear this news and wanted to send my condolences to you all. Colleen was a lovely lady, always had a smile on her face and a twinkle in her eye and I am so happy to have been a small part of her life when you were over in the UK. My thoughts, prayers and love are with you all at this very sad time. Caroline xx